I find my 22 year old self laughing boisterously at the image of 18 year old me. Astounded by the idea that there was ever a point in my life where I held a woman’s curves in higher esteem than the big beautiful brain between her ears.
Who am I kidding. I am also laughing at 18, 19 and 20 year old me — for it was just recently that I noticed this subtle change in draw towards a woman’s intelligence rather than solely her looks.
If I find myself in a bar, coffee shop or wherever it may be awestruck at the level at which a woman can think; she might as well have just flashed me clear across the table and bought me a Gin & Tonic or a venti vanilla iced coffee with room for cream… because I simply don’t think there is anything sexier.
I remember back in 2013, Ashton Kutcher was giving an acceptance speech for a Teen Choice Awards he received for the movie “Jobs”. In his speech he said something that I believe perfectly sums up the point I am trying to get across in this post.
“The sexiest thing in the entire world, is being really smart. And being thoughtful. And being generous. Everything else is crap, I promise you. It’s just crap that people try to sell to you, to make you feel like less. So don’t buy it. Be smart, be thoughtful and be generous.”
In a world where a booming Porn Industry brings in 97 Billion dollars annually, a heavily edited selfie garners 300+ likes, and the Kardashians are more well-known than Mahatma Gandhi — it is clear that ‘looks’ matter, a lot in fact.
This worries me, for a number of reasons. This universal practice of putting a greater level of emphasis on a person’s appearance rather than their heart, mind and spirit I believe could eventually be detrimental to America’s future.
The fact of the matter is that looks can’t change the world, but intelligence can. That a man or woman shouldn’t have to feel pressured to change their appearance to fit some type of fucked up cultural expectation — but instead should be encouraged to build that thing between their ears that we all ironically forget about.
Intelligence launched us to the moon, it is what ended slavery, and it is what created the internet. Intelligence is the reason why we don’t croak every time we catch a common cold, it is why when someone receives a traumatic head injury they aren’t ‘rushed’ to the hospital in a horse and buggy.
Intelligence is what will eventually end terrorism, it is what will cure HIV & Cancer, and it is what will allow someone to walk again after paralysis. Intelligence is what will continue to change the world and the lives of the people who live in it, every single day.
Looks, well they provide a good reflection in the mirror I suppose.
The bottom line is that you are beautiful and more powerful than you realize. Yes you, I am speaking to you. Until you discover this, you will never ever amount to your full potential.
This discovery can not be found in the pictures that you take nor the reflection you see in the mirror. This discovery is found in your brain.
Pick up a fucking book and go change the world, discover the power your intelligence has to offer.
By Cole Schafer