Most of men’s problems stem from lack of non-sexual intimacy with their partners and perhaps a much deeper underlying fear of vulnerability. We’ve been socially conditioned to believe that having sex makes us more masculine and expressing vulnerability makes us weak. As a result, we live in a culture where men won’t go to therapy and will instead attempt to fuck the pain away, be it to a screen or with another human being.
I’ve known great troubles, both mental and emotional, and many of them have been cured sitting alone in a room with a therapist. And, I’d argue just as many, if not more, have been cured spending fifteen to twenty minutes with my head on a woman’s chest.
Fucking is good. But it’s not medicine.
By Cole Schafer.
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