When opportunities feel scarce, we place an unhealthy expectation on each one that comes our way. This not only takes us out of the present moment. It actually pushes the opportunities away. The Buddhists call this grasping or clinging. They believe it's the root of all suffering. I prefer to call it white knuckling. Think of it like attempting to catch a butterfly. If you chase a butterfly, you will not catch it. You will frighten it away. However, if you sit still and be patient, the butterfly might just land on you. It's easy to be patient in a butterfly garden where there are dozens and dozens fluttering around you. It's harder when you look around and see just one. When there is just one, behave as if there are many. You can't white knuckle a butterfly.